Dating someone who has anxiety is not the easiest of relationships, it doesn’t mean we don’t love you any less, we’re still us. Keep reading for 10 things you should know before dating someone suffering with anxiety, Hope this helps.
Dating someone is an exciting adventure. Falling in love, making memories and more than anything in the world, being best friends. Everyone has their flaws. Like, literally everyone. It’s normal and when it comes to relationships we try to hide them, steer away from showing them and sometimes (Not always) pretend to be like a different, more ‘improved’ you. Yeah having bad breath in the morning and snoring are kind embarrassing but when it comes to having anxiety, it’s on a whole new level. Off the scale.
Okay, so to make it sound more understandable. Hiding anxiety in front of a guy/gal when literally panicking like hell is pretty tough. Oh boy, i’ve been there. I hurt inside just thinking about it. I’ve been in some pretty awkward situations which i won’t ever forget. Including getting out the car on the motorway and running down the road because i was having a major panic attack. I was on my way to the airport and ended up missing the holiday of a lifetime, now that sucks. What makes it even more unbearable is the fact i was with my boyfriends family. Imagine that? It wasn’t something i’d ever want to experience again. Luckily his family are amazing and understood but i wanted the ground to swallow me up.
So, heres what to know when dating someone who’s anxious a lot.
- Sometimes curling up in a ball and hibernating is really needed to cope (My main method) Shutting yourself away when feeling like you’ve swallowed a football and your stomaches churning is one of the most popular coping mechanisms. Basically hiding from your fears. Or just like if you was hungover or poorly, you wouldn’t want to leave the comfort and safety of your room. You just wouldn’t have the energy or effort too.
- Simplest of tasks can really take its toll, spending the majority of your time anxiety and tiring work, seriously. Don’t be surprised if they get home and crawl into bed. It’s exhausting, physically and mentally. If i go out two days in a row, i end up spending the next day asleep.
- We know you’re trying to help but ‘You’re okay’ Does not always help. We know you mean well but when you’re grounding and your hearts beating 20 to the dozen, you’re clearly not okay. Yes you won’t die but god, it feels horrible.
- Don’t get scared if they literally just run. I’m going by my own experiences here and i’m guessing i can’t be the only one. When i have a panic attack, like full blown oh my god i need saving attack i just run, whether it’s home, to the car or somewhere quite. I just have to get out of that surrounding and everything around me.
- change can be a big deal to us. It takes us a little more time to adapt. Talk through things is so reassuring.
- It’s pretty important to learn how to deal with a panic attack. Yeah it can be scary but they pass.
- Don’t get peeved if they turn down going to some social event/party etc. They’re god darn daunting and an annoyed loved one just puts the icing on the cake. Run, like now.
- Things can get said in the heat of the moment. Just remember when we tell you to do one, it’s not meant to hurt you. We realise that after. Hey we’ve all said things when in a pickle!
- Night times are no exception. Being woken up to us panicking and freaking out happens. Panic attacks don’t just disappear at night, Trust me. No need for that alarm clock, we can wake you up 4 hours early, ideal!
- Something minor to you, can be the end of the world to us. We over process everything.Our hearts race and we stress like mad, even over simple day to day tasks like shopping.
We have big hearts and will appreciate every thing you do for us, little or large.