If theres one thing i can’t stand more, it’s bitchiness. Girls who look down on you, glare at you and give you hate and negativity for absolutely no reason whatsoever. Please, enlighten me as to what they get out of it? A boosted ego? I think not, honey it doesn’t make you prettier calling someone else ugly. As girls i’m certain we’ve all experienced this ‘girl world bitching’ On mean girls, girl world is emphasised as something completely different. A world wear we can hate each other for no reason apart from they have nice clothes or a gorgeous tan. Girls can tend to think it’s competition. But its not, it isn’t a contest or a need for rivals. The pretty annoying part is we can’t change the way girls are towards each other. But we can be kind of sassy too right?! I’m not on about the bitchy kind of sassy.
But the kind of sassy where you couldn’t find a single dam to give. The kind of sassy which is attractive. But how ? Well when that girl who is calling you ‘fake’ or ‘stuckup’ or whatever doesn’t get the reaction she wanted, she’s stumped for words.
Don’t be a regina george
This post isn’t going to please everyone, and i’m putting my neck on the line by posting it. But i believe as girls we have the right to defend ourselves and stand up for ourselves. So girls, what can we do to keep our pride, stay classy and not get upset by bullies? Firstly be yourself, being proud of who you are and taking insults with a pinch of salt shows that you are the girl everyone wants to be like. The girl who doesn’t care. Take their comments in your stride. I’m not saying start an argument or give them a mouthful back, but a one comment response. It’s that simple. The best thing to say to a bully is ‘i don’t care’ Thats it. Nothing else, no more replies just ‘i don’t care’. They’ll be waiting for you to retaliate but you won’t. They’ll soon get the gist that they aren’t gonna get anywhere trying to upset you and in fact they look quite pathetic. I would go as far as to say they look desperate for a cat fight. But thats not what they are going to get.
In a certain aspect, i guess we should feel sorry for them. You’re thinking i’m crazy right now but lets roll with it. Trust me on this one.
So lets release our inner physic for a moment. Look deeper into the picture.
For example if a girl is calling you fat. Or ugly. Theres a strong sign that she is probably not as confident as she is making out. She’s venting her self confidence on somebody else. Jealousy can be a bitch. It’s that or she simply gets a kick from upsetting others. Maybe you used to be friend and fell out so she’s upset at you. Theres always a reason. Or even it is just because she gets a kick out of it, i feel sorry for them, the fact they have to behave like that. It says more about them than it does you.
Not all scenarios are based on the internet, so lets switch it up a little. The hardest thing is when its in broad daylight, face to face. Theres no hiding behind the computer screen. If someone makes a comment whilst walking past you, whether its in school or shopping, even on a night out. Pretend you didn’t hear them, their ignorance doesn’t even phase you. Show that it does not bother you in the slightest. This makes you look strong, mature and classy. And the other person throwing the insults gets bored.
Now if someone is in your personal space, being aggressive and insulting it’s not as easy. Putting it bluntly, if you retaliate or shout then theres the slight chance they’ll try to fight you. I’m not saying this will happen. Just be aware, especially if they’re drunk or with a group of girls and showing off. We’ve all seen these kind of videos on Facebook. Its shocking behaviour especially from a girl. I wouldn’t say to get all cocky if there is one of you and five of them. Girl theres being strong and then there is common sense. You’re outnumbered. Handling the worst possible situation has to be done in the right way.
Keep your phone in your hand, phone your friend or family member and talk to them.
Just having your phone in your hand shows that if you want to report them you can. Start walking away, don’t retaliate or show fear. Just calmly walk away. Try to stay in public areas. Where there is other people to witness whats going on. Walk into a shop or anywhere they won’t act of line. And always tell someone when you get home.
I guess what i am trying to say is, being mature is the best possible attitude to have. It doesn’t make you a coward. It makes you an adult. Which is the sassiest feature a women can have. Because you’re a women, not a girl.
I really hope that you found this helpful, and if you didn’t then i don’t mind you saying so. I’m quite nervous about this post, it could either go good or bad. My blogging reputation is on the line here.
Lots of love,