February

The sassy girls guide to dealing with bullies

February 17, 2016

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If theres one thing i can’t stand more, it’s bitchiness. Girls who look down on you, glare at you and give you hate and negativity for absolutely no reason whatsoever. Please, enlighten me as to what they get out of it? A boosted ego? I think not, honey it doesn’t make you prettier calling someone else ugly. As girls i’m certain we’ve all experienced this ‘girl world bitching’ On mean girls, girl world is emphasised as something completely different. A world wear we can hate each other for no reason apart from they have nice clothes or a gorgeous tan. Girls can tend to think it’s competition. But its not, it isn’t a contest or a need for rivals. The pretty annoying part is we can’t change the way girls are towards each other. But we can be kind of sassy too right?! I’m not on about the bitchy kind of sassy.
But the kind of sassy where you couldn’t find a single dam to give. The kind of sassy which is attractive. But how ? Well when that girl who is calling you ‘fake’ or ‘stuckup’ or whatever doesn’t get the reaction she wanted, she’s stumped for words.

Don’t be a regina george
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This post isn’t going to please everyone, and i’m putting my neck on the line by posting it. But i believe as girls we have the right to defend ourselves and stand up for ourselves. So girls, what can we do to keep our pride, stay classy and not get upset by bullies? Firstly be yourself, being proud of who you are and taking insults with a pinch of salt shows that you are the girl everyone wants to be like. The girl who doesn’t care. Take their comments in your stride. I’m not saying start an argument or give them a mouthful back, but a one comment response. It’s that simple.  The best thing to say to a bully is ‘i don’t care’ Thats it. Nothing else, no more replies just ‘i don’t care’. They’ll be waiting for you to retaliate but you won’t. They’ll soon get the gist that they aren’t gonna get anywhere trying to upset you and in fact they look quite pathetic. I would go as far as to say they look desperate for a cat fight. But thats not what they are going to get.

In a certain aspect, i guess we should feel sorry for them. You’re thinking i’m crazy right now but lets roll with it. Trust me on this one.
So lets release our inner physic for a moment. Look deeper into the picture.
For example if a girl is calling you fat. Or ugly. Theres a strong sign that she is probably not as confident as she is making out. She’s venting her self confidence on somebody else. Jealousy can be a bitch. It’s that or she simply gets a kick from upsetting others. Maybe you used to be friend and fell out so she’s upset at you. Theres always a reason. Or even it is just because she gets a kick out of it, i feel sorry for them, the fact they have to behave like that. It says more about them than it does you.

Not all scenarios are based on the internet, so lets switch it up a little. The hardest thing is when its in broad daylight, face to face. Theres no hiding behind the computer screen. If someone makes a comment whilst walking past you, whether its in school or shopping, even on a night out. Pretend you didn’t hear them, their ignorance doesn’t even phase you. Show that it does not bother you in the slightest. This makes you look strong, mature and classy. And the other person throwing the insults gets bored.
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Now if someone is in your personal space, being aggressive and insulting it’s not as easy. Putting it bluntly, if you retaliate or shout then theres the slight chance they’ll try to fight you. I’m not saying this will happen. Just be aware, especially if they’re drunk or with a group of girls and showing off. We’ve all seen these kind of videos on Facebook. Its  shocking behaviour especially from a girl. I wouldn’t say to get all cocky if there is one of you and five of them. Girl theres being strong and then there is common sense. You’re outnumbered. Handling the worst possible situation has to be done in the right way.
Keep your phone in your hand, phone your friend or family member and talk to them.
Just having your phone in your hand shows that if you want to report them you can. Start walking away, don’t retaliate or show fear. Just calmly walk away. Try to stay in public areas. Where there is other people to witness whats going on. Walk into a shop or anywhere they won’t act of line. And always tell someone when you get home.

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I guess what i am trying to say is, being mature is the best possible attitude to have. It doesn’t make you a coward. It makes you an adult. Which is the sassiest feature a women can have. Because you’re a women, not a girl.

I really hope that you found this helpful, and if you didn’t then i don’t mind you saying so. I’m quite nervous about this post, it could either go good or bad. My blogging reputation is on the line here.

Lots of love,
Abbey xo

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  • Reply TodaysPippa February 17, 2016 at 3:39 pm

    I completely agree! Maturity is key and it also means extending that mature mindset towards yourself! Yes, we all have to accept our limitations ( I was never going to be as tall, as blond, as well-dressed) but understand that our strengths are far more important than anyone else’s perspective of ourselves! Best asset is giving them your ass to kiss when you walk on by not giving a crap! Right on, girl! xxx

    • Reply littlebeautyblogxo February 18, 2016 at 10:06 pm

      I love your view on it! You go girl! Thank you so much for reading! xxx

  • Reply heidiseeley February 17, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    Hiya! Just wanna say this is brilliant. This would help so many people and i share the way you think about things completely. A lot of people should read this post because a lot of people in a lot of situations in life are affected by it. Even as adults bitchyness and bullying can be worse sometines! Well done 🙂 good read x

    • Reply littlebeautyblogxo February 18, 2016 at 10:02 pm

      Thank you so much lovely! Means a lot to know people enjoy my post! x

  • Reply diElleci February 17, 2016 at 6:14 pm

    Maturity is always the best answer, even if its not the first thing that comes up in your head lol!

    Great Post!!

    • Reply littlebeautyblogxo February 18, 2016 at 10:01 pm

      I couldn’t agree more honey! It’s hard when in the heat of the moment. Thank you for reading x

  • Reply Tessa February 17, 2016 at 6:48 pm

    I love this! I love your take on things and I like your writingstyle 🙂 I certainly agree on the feeling sorry aspect, it is sad that they have to bitch to other people to feel better themselves! Keep it up 🙂

    • Reply littlebeautyblogxo February 18, 2016 at 10:01 pm

      Thank you so much lovely! I thought it wouldn’t go down well but its so nice to know people enjoyed it! x

  • Reply GlamourPrin February 17, 2016 at 8:01 pm

    This is such a helpful post and It’s so true when you said the best reply is to say ” I don’t care” it really works.

  • Reply RealWordsbyVylette.com February 17, 2016 at 9:32 pm

    Thank you! I hate bitchassness too. Girls can be catty and a whole sorts of things. I glad you introduce this and ways to deal with Regina Georges 😊

  • Reply Isabelle February 17, 2016 at 9:40 pm

    I loved this! I just had some bitchiness directed at me by a girl similar to my age and used her younger friends against me, I did try to just give them ‘I don’t care’ but when you spend time with them ignoring you one day and bitching the next is so emotionally draining. I ended being an emotional wreck at christmas and new year, and although I want to believe she feels bad, she doesn’t, and I feel bad for her, I might do a similar post, I’ll mention you! 🙂
    Isabelle x
    https://mysmallcornerisabelle.wordpress.com

    • Reply littlebeautyblogxo February 18, 2016 at 9:59 pm

      I’m so glad you found it helpful! I hope you’re okay! Of course, i’d love to read! x

  • Reply idounghtgivea February 19, 2016 at 4:02 pm

    This I such an important message for everyone, such a helpful post!

  • Reply modelgracier February 19, 2016 at 9:39 pm

    Girl this post is amazing, I enjoyed reading it, this is really helpfull for the girls who go through this situation.We girls should spend more time getting to know our-self and learning to love our-self and who we really are instead of bitching on others and tones of others things!

    xox

    • Reply littlebeautyblogxo February 20, 2016 at 7:50 pm

      Thank you so much for reading, i’m so glad you enjoyed it! xox

  • Reply thethirtysomethingblog February 23, 2016 at 1:05 am

    Love this! Sometimes you see exactly what you need to see, when you need to see it.

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